After the storm

Storm coming in –

Rain through the shutters –

After the wind and thunder and lightning, the rain came from the mountains, cold and crisp.  The children had been playing outside, happy in the wind and rain.  But when the rain intensified they came in, and we watched it from the windows.

This picture above of the rain through the shutters — that is how my sight has been recently, a little obstructed.  Still, things are getting better everyday.

In fact being (temporarily) half blind isn’t half bad.  I’m getting rest.  I am enjoying quiet, healing and contemplative moments in this beautiful place.  I’ve made some new friends as a result of this injury.

However,  there are some disadvantages.  There is almost no way I can slap a mosquito (Zanzara in Italian)  from the air now.   My depth perception is a little off.  It makes me bump into things a little more often too.  I have a little double vision.

Also, when I look into the mirror, I can hardly see half of me.  Half of me is has disappeared.  Half of me is foggy, ethereal.  The other half remains bright and clear.

Dark and dawn and dusk and shadow are a pleasure for me these days.  A relief.  Bright light still  makes me cringe, and it makes my eye cry.  I often wear sunglasses inside.

The children are adapting to life here.  Gelato, spaghetti, Nutella.  They run around the olive groves and I listen to them laughing outside my window.  Sometimes I venture out with them, often shrouded and looking like The Invisible Man in a straw hat.  And we pick figs together, or apples, or pears.  Then I retreat to a shady spot to enjoy the fruits of this land.

Talk about slowing down.  Even without being a (temporary) cyclops, things are just slower here.  And simpler.

No microwave, no fast food, no air conditioner, no TV, no radio, no stereo.  No shopping during siesta time.  The whole village takes a collective nap.  I do too.  I can’t drive right now, so unless someone drives me, no going anywhere.

Just enjoying the here and now.

And eating apples from the tree.

There are Many Possibilities

Along the lines of The Horse Boy,  I recently read a new book by Hope Edelman titled:  The Possibility of Everything.  it’s a memoir about Hope and her three-year-old daughter, Maya.  One day Maya starts to converse with an ‘imaginary friend” named Dodo.  Strange things begin to happen.  Dodo seems to encourage Maya to do all sorts of puzzling things.  Indeed, after a while, Dodo doesn’t seem so “imaginary,” and he doesn’t act like a “friend.”  In fact, to Maya and to her family, Dodo is very real, and his presence is malevolent.  They consult teachers and their pediatrician, and try on their own to get rid of Dodo, but he remains, his presence ever stronger and more influential and malicious.  Finally, at a loss, the family travels to Belize and consults with a traditional healer there.  The Possibility of Everything is a wonderful book about a mother’s concern for her daughter, and a family’s quest for healing.

Healing Through Love and Horses

mongoliaIt’s almost impossible to know what the future may hold.  It’s difficult to tell what will happen when the baby grows up.  Who knows what challenges our children will face?  We know some of them — the various disorders diagnosed in kindergarten, the social difficulties, the food allergies, the genetic challenges.  We know from our own struggles, that there will be challenges.   That much is certain.  And many families, more and more it seems,  cope with children who are autistic — a bewildering set of behaviors which includes the inability to connect with other children and adults.

Rupert Isaacson and Kristina Neff are parents of a son named Rowan.  And he’s autistic.  They try everything to reach him — various medications, diets, therapies.  Some of it helps, a little.  Some of it doesn’t help at all.  At a complete loss, but ever hopeful and optimistic of a cure, they travel to Mongolia to seek healing with the shamans in the mountains there.

They have made a film of their journey, The Horse Boy.   The result is a very moving portrait of a family (and an official selection of 2009 Sundance Film Festival).  Watching as they travel through Mongolia with their son, any parent will recognize themselves and their children.  We know the that feeling of helplessness in the face of our children’s struggles.  It’s painful.  And we can also recognize in this family’s love and struggles, our own love for our children and our own willingness to provide for their needs and to help them be healthy and happy at home, and in Mongolia.

Find out more about the film and to find out about screenings, visit The Horse Boy Website.  And click here for more about The Horse Boy Foundation.